Annemarie knows the judgy mummy all too well.
I had no idea about how judgy people were about mummies, and mummies were themselves, until I had my first daughter, by C-section none the less. And she wouldn’t breastfeed.
Even now I feel that I need to defend why I had a C-section. So I’m going to restrain myself from saying anything except that M wouldn’t have come out otherwise.
So take that mum I met at mum’s group who told me I hadn’t really given birth since I’d never experienced labour. Umm…hello, see this baby? Did she not come out of me? Was it the birth I’d wanted, anticipated and planned? (I laugh now about “planning” a birth.) Hardly. But were my daughter and I both safe, sound and healthy?
Yup. And that was the point as far as I was concerned.
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